Fortuitous Encounters

No doubt my favorite living contemporary painter is Alyce Frank. She lives near Taos NM in a small town with her husband and produces paintings that reach out and touch me ever so deeply. I believe one of her favorite painters and source of inspiration is Vincent van Gogh. Alyce is represented in several galleries. I had read a little about her but had never met her, seen her, nor seen a photo of her, nor had I actually seen one of her paintings *in person*--I had viewed them first on postcards I found in Abiquiu NM near to where I lived for nearly a year a few miles beyond the village of Canones, then in books and online. I knew she loved to paint plein air especially in NM. A couple of years ago my partner and I took a driving trip out West, heading for California. One day while touring Yosemite Park in one of those large tour buses we made yet another stop to take in the breath taking scenery. I noticed a couple of painters parked in an old station wagon with large easels set up by the side of the road. Something stirred in me and told me that I just HAD to go over and say hello and introduce myself. I walked away from the group and headed over to the painters some little distance away. I walked right up to them and introduced myself and then blurted out "Are you by any chance Alyce Frank?" To which she replied, yes, I am, and this is my painting partner Barbara Zaring. I was both in awe and shock at this so called *coincidence*, and it turns out Ms. Frank also got quite a little thrill from the whole event. She was the artist in residence at Yosemite and I had no idea of any of this. Wow, what magical things can happen, especially when we take that risk and move right through our nervousness and doubts and fears and follow those inner urgings. A few weeks later I received a call from the owner of the Fenix Gallery in Taos who informed me that Alyce Frank was so impressed by the encounter that she wanted me to have one of her paintings!!! I simply couldn't believe it--her paintings typically sell anywhere from $4000 to $10,000 and more. Well that part proved to be just a bit too good to be true as I learned that what was meant was that Ms. Frank was offering me a painting for less than half price, plus shipping and handling. In that case I kindly asked if I could chose a different painting than the one she had set aside for me and she indeed approved my request. Now I have an original Alyce Frank oil painting hanging in my living room titled El Salto. I love it, and I love how I came to be the owner of such a beautiful piece of art by my most revered contemporary painter in the whole world!!



Another fortuitous encounter happened one day at a support group meeting I was attending weekly at the Austin Men's Center (Co-dependence anonymous). What a great group of guys! We came together weekly and shared our stories without judgment, offering one another support, care, and love, and many of us coming to the knowledge that we are not alone in this world with our problems , issues, and suffering. It was my plan to make a trip to the bank and retrieve some documents from the safety deposit box after the meeting. I had placed the safety deposit key in my bag. The key itself is tucked away bright red little envelope. It was cold outside and so before getting in my car I decided to get the key out of my bag and put it in my pocket so it would be readily available when I got to the bank. I searched and searched in my bag and could not find it. Eventually I removed every single item from my bag, sorted through everything, placing everything on the floor, then carefully sorting through everything again and slowly putting everything back into my bag (a small backpack) but the key was NOWHERE to be found. Suddenly I heard someone in the adjacent room crying and I went to see what was going on. One guy, who was needing to leave to get to work was listening to another guy who appeared to be in deep pain about something, and his sobbing was intense. I went into the room and sat down and held him while he cried, and cried, and cried, then told me his problem. Later, when he had recovered his composure for the time being we exchanged names and phone numbers and he became one of my best friends in my life. He taught me to paint, something that I had never done before. I had a deeply ingrained belief that I had absolutely no artistic ability whatsoever and therefore had never taken an art course, not even an art history course. My first piece of art that I brought home from first grade and proudly showed to my mother turned out to be the object of unintentional, but very hurtful ridicule. My mother told me and everyone else who came to the house that I had brought home the ugliest piece of art she had ever seen in her life. She repeatedly displayed this artwork of mine and had many laughs at it's ugliness. She told me I had no talent whatsoever. Hence, I had avoided the visual arts my entire life up until I was 39 years old. But that was soon to change. This beautiful man I met that day was a gifted artist and he taught me to paint. He encouraged me, he praised me, he inspired me.



After our meeting that day I got into my car to head for the bank, realizing that I had been unable to find the safety deposit key, something that had kept me there at the center longer than was normal as I had searched my backpack extensively, which had allowed me to meet my new friend. I just KNEW I had put that key in my bag before leaving home so sitting there in my car, I opened my bag to again begin yet another search for the elusive key and there it was, sitting right on top of the contents of my bag, in plain view.



I have learned the hard way (naturally) to look at such mysterious events with complete openness and try not figure out the meaning. Conjecture, theories, interpretations that may lead to certain actions on my part have proven to be not the best course of action, not the best way to understand these things. Rather I've learned, and still learn, to be still and watch and go slowly and be introspective but without coming to all sorts of self misguided conclusions, because when one does that, it removes the mystery, it removes the element of the mystical, it seeks to concretize that which may very well need to remain ethereal.



Note: the first painting above is El Salto by Alyce Frank as are the next two; the fourth painting was done by me.

Blessings to Open New Doors

I drove Zachary to Beeville yesterday. Dale went with me. Oftentimes it's a bit strange going back to my home town, sometimes I'm flooded with memories--both pleasant and not so pleasant--and other times I feel as though many lifetimes have passed since I once lived here. There is one feeling that's consistent and that's that I'm glad I no longer live here in this depressing place. When my friend from High School Brian moved back to Beeville from NYC a few years ago, I began going down there quite often, but it was different. Brian lives in the country outside Beeville on 75 acres in a large, beautiful house built by his parents. It's totally private and secluded and Beeville seems worlds away, most of the time. Brian put in a pool with a large deck and upgraded the outdoor half-bath in the carport area. We've had so many fun times by the pool, so many parties. One weekend about this time last summer I drove down for a visit. On the way there I caught a momentary glance out of the corner of my eye of Buck and Meg (two horses) in the pasture adjacent to the highway. Buck was standing over Meg who was laying on the ground, something horses enjoy doing, rolling in the dirt. Later while lounging by the pool I noticed that neither Buck nor Meg had made an appearance. Usually they show up when we are out by the pool and I always love to walk down to the fence and pet them, and Brian usually gathers a bucket of grain pellets to feed them. I asked Brian where they were and we all puzzled over why they hadn't yet shown up. They never did. Something in my gut was troubled. Something in the back of my mind felt uneasy, but I couldn't figure it out. The image of Buck standing over Meg while she rolled in the dirt kept coming to mind. Did I actually see her rolling in the dirt? The next morning Brian got a call from a friend, who had driven by on the highway, with dire news--"you have a dead horse in your pasture." The sheriff was called, Brian's brother came out and it wasn't long before news filtered up to the house that someone had driven by and shot Meg in the head with 22 caliber rifle, and she was dead. While they dug a deep hole in the field for burial, I watched over Buck who had been coaxed into a corral near the house. He was so upset, running about trying to get to Meg, almost busting through the fence, whinnying over and over again. I spent hours with him that morning, calming him, soothing him as best as I could. Obviously he had witnessed the murder of his companion, the beautiful mare Meg. He was afraid of me at first, then slowly moved closer and closer until finally I was rubbing the entire side of his long neck, and I could see he was calming down and feeling soothed.

Immediately after returning to Austin I went to a yoga class and Keith read the following poem aloud which totally blew me away:

A Blessing

By James Wright

Just off the highway to Rochester, Minnesota,

Twilight bounds softly forth on the grass.

And the eyes of those two Indian ponies

Darken with kindness.

They have come gladly out of the willows

To welcome my friend and me.

We step over the barbed wire into the pasture

Where they have been grazing all day, alone.

They ripple tensely, they can hardly contain their happiness

That we have come.

They bow shyly as wet swans.

They love each other.

There is no loneliness like theirs.

At home once more,

They begin munching the young tufts of spring in the darkness.

I would like to hold the slenderer one in my arms,

For she has walked over to me

And nuzzled my left hand.

She is black and white,

Her mane falls wild on her forehead,

And the light breeze moves me to caress her long ear
That is delicate as the skin over a girl’s wrist.

Suddenly I realize that if I stepped out of my body

I would break
Into blossom.

I was haunted by this for a long while. I was confused about a recent (and ongoing) *infatuation* that had me torn apart and weeping daily for weeks on end, which eventually turned into months. I stayed with it all and worked hard at processing it, understanding it, going to the core of the issues that were coming up for me. This is not easy work. The next month I attended a retreat at Bodhi Zen Center in Jemez Springs NM, A Gathering of Men, sponsored by Spirit Journeys. It was a profound experience. Just totally profound. The next month I traveled throughout Tuscany for several weeks, then a few months later I found myself on a yoga retreat in Bali. Doors had opened and blessings bestowed. I worked with a wonderful therapist and joined a group-therapy-group. It was all so very rich and rewarding and such hard f***ing work!

Staying with our pain and feeling it fully without trying to suppress it is the way of the heart, it's the way to healing, understanding, growth. So many doors open to us when we stay the course of our heart, listen deeply to what our best self is telling us, often heard through the words of others, passages in books, poems, dreams (including nightmares). Archaeological digs into our deeper pits, no matter how dark, will reveal many truths.

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Words, information, knowledge, wisdom

We are bombarded by information, especially if we cruise the Internet, watch movies, TV, read books, magazines, yet we retain so very little of this information, which is probably a good thing. I suppose knowledge comes when we spend time and put forth the effort to learn something new, or master something, we come to know about it, to some greater degree than before. We retain information that captures our interest and we delve into it. We have knowledge about it. And wisdom, yes, that rich form of guidance that is etched deeply into our psyches and tells us what is right vs wrong, what is healthy and good for us and what isn't, helps to lead us on the path we choose, helps us to choose the path that is best for us...

It's interesting how one may come upon a word and decide to use that word in one's writing or dialog. Suddenly it seems that word is to be found everywhere. It just pops up like magic all the time, that is after you become aware of it. Yet, it was there all along, you simply didn't notice it. And so it goes with so many things. Awareness is an important word, an important state, a concept well worth pondering, contemplating. A word(s) that I've noticed to be so prevalent for many months now is moon. Or lunar. In Sun magazine I read an interview with Andrew Harvey. I saw his books in Whole Life Books, the feminine comes up a lot in his writings, Mother Nature, Goddess, and so on. Elizabeth Gilbert writes: "...but for millennia there have been others who choose instead to get up before the sun and wash their faces and go to their prayers. And then fiercely try to hold on to their devotional convictions throughout the lunacy of another day."

LUNACY of another day? A day of sun, a day without moon? A day with the feminine hidden? The complexity of the lunar cycle was explained (rather an attempted explanation) in a recent meditation session let by Abhi whereby he played a tape he had made that must have lasted 20 minutes or so about the moon, her cycles, blue moon, full moon, new moon, so many days, hours, minutes...it went on and on with an incredible amount of information. I retained so very little. Lunar breathing to cool down. Mary Keator said most of us, including most women, are far more in touch with our masculine aspects than with our feminine aspects. I find this endlessly fascinating, and often wonder how in touch am I with my feminine aspects vs my masculine aspects?

Pema Chodron wisely tells us to not take ourselves so seriously. To simply lighten up. Which allows me to free associate, similar to the year or so I spent writing my morning pages every day as Julia Cameron suggests in The Artists Way.

I can hear the TV in the other room and try to tune it out. My nephew---Ok, we've gone to the movies--yesterday we saw Wall E, which was really good, clothes shopping, ice cream parlor, swimming at Hamilton's Pool, dined out, hair cut, purchased books for summer reading...and I'm ready for my freedom again! My body is protesting the change in diet and other routines. Still, I'm having fun but will take my nephew home this weekend--tomorrow. It surprises me how easily he gets bored and how much TV he watches! I wish there were other kids around for him to play with, but he gets plenty of that at home, and at school...

Rituals

I regretably made an appointment to have my car in for its 1000 mile service at 6:30 this morning, so I need to leave the house around 5:30 a.m. to 5:45 a.m. I'm reacting with some stress over having my nephew as company, I don't feel well suited to entertaining a 10 year old.

Yesterday we went to the movies and saw Get Smart, shared a huge bag of popcorn then walked over to Amy's Ice Cream and had a large scoop of Belgium Chocolate ice cream (one of my favorites). We got home around 5 and then I had to prepare dinner for all of us, hence we didn't eat until around 7 p.m. I began to feel the need to have some space and privacy after barely having him here for over 24 hours! What a wimp I am when it comes to giving my time and routine over to taking care of a 10 year old! I've always known I could never be a parent! But I did make it to practice yesterday morning and that was sweet. I stopped at Umlauf Garden to check out the hours and sure enough they are closed Mon and Tues, so the idea of taking Zach there was out of the question for the day. Still, we do have fun, acting silly and laughing at all the craziness portrayed in that *movie*....

I managed to make it to bed last night by 8:30 so I had some time to myself (plus the wonderful morning time that I so enjoy, all to myself as Dale and Zach tend to sleep late compared with my routine) and read the following passage that particularly rang true for me:

rituals and reality

"Rituals and forms in spiritual practice can be useful, but in themselves they have little to do with seeing the truth. We must question whether we use the forms and rituals to connect with what is, or as a way to hide in familiar security. The longer one practices in a particular tradition, the easier it becomes to hide in the routines, in doing it "right," and--especially--in the jargon. Thus we trap ourselves in the protected cacoon of comforting predictability, unable to experience the reality of what our life really is."

excerpted from Saying YES to Life (Even the Hard Parts) by Ezra Bayda with Josh Bartok.

The Destination of Pilgrims

Went to bed early, arose this morning later than usual, and am still feeling groggy. Was it the gelato serving last night? I recall intense dreams that I didn't record soon enough, now they have mostly escaped my consciousness, except for little bits and pieces. I do know that Ralph never got in bed with me last night, but Pepe did, and he crawled up close and slept right against me. I'm guessing Ralph is jealous and is protesting, expressing his hurt feelings at not being the cat who gets ALL the attention anymore. Still, he very much likes Pepe. In some ways their behavior can easily been seen to parallel that of humans. About my dreams last night, I do know that upon awakening I had a bit of a sickened feeling in my gut, seeing the birth of some many litters of kittens with no one to feed them or care for them, so to the shelters they go and are lucky if they make it to a no kill shelter, even luckier if they get adopted. And then my thoughts go to the mother racoon who lives nearby, and how very hard she worked to care for her young, how protective she was, but when it came time to let them go, to push them out of the house so to speak, they seemed barely able to walk, such tiny and fragile little creatures, unable to even climb any of the water fountains to drink. Survival is rare and the chances of reaching adolescence is rare, adulthood even rarer, and becoming a racoon senior citizen is indeed to a few. And so all the baby racoons have probably died even though I'd like to think they moved on to another location and are doing well. Statistics don't lend much credence to that hope. I love Annie Dillard's books and how she can write so beautifully on topics that many of us don't particularly enjoy thinking about---the animal kingdom and insects and reptiles devouring one another daily in predatory hunts, bites filled with poison, webs that trap the unsuspecting, bloody kills and the ripping away of muscles as the prey stuggles to get away and dies slowly, in what appears to be such agony. The world is filled with so much *violence* as species after species devours one another as they are supposed to do. In accordance with their very natures. Nature, so beautiful, mysterious, magical, and cruel, raw, devasting, murderous, cannibalistic....

We drove to Wimberley yesterday and picked up my nephew who said he'd like to stay with us for 5 to 8 days. This fall he enteres 5th grade. I have a difficult time entertaining him, so I need to just let that go and let him find much of his own entertainment. We did go shopping for clothes/shoes yesterday, and although the stores were packed with mobs of people, it was easy to find what we wanted. For lunch they both had hamburgers and french fries while I came home and had my sprouted seed bread and peanut butter with honey and fruit.

I'm enjoying reading passages from Ezra Bayda's Saying YES to Life (Even the Hard Parts) and look forward to reading Wherever You Go, There You Are, Mindfullness Meditation in Everyday Life by Jon Kabat-Zinn. My reading list grows far faster than my reading.

The armadillos have dug up much of the dirt that Dale carefully spread out, then covered with big, flat pieces of Arizona flagstone to fight the erosion that takes place in the *dry* creek bed each time we have a torrential rain (a distant memory!)...and the water rushes up over our driveway taking away the crushed limestone. Those armadillos are merely searching for grubworms, trying to survive. We are all trying to survive as best we can, I think. We are indeed pilgrims on a path and no matter how much comfort we may take in believing we know our destinations, do we really? I think not.

Time for breakfast and off to Focus on Form class.

Another summer day

Margaret Perry's pre-performance lecture last night at the Emma Long Center on Verdi was the perfect prelude to the actual performance. What an artist, recognized as a genius at the age of 4, he became his village's official church organist by the age of 9. Married with two beautiful children, he lost all of them within an 18 month period of time. Retired to become as successful a farmer as he was a composer. A proclaimed agnostic, it's hard to imagine the creative mind composing something as intense as his famous Requiem performed last night under the direction of Craig Hellig Johnson. Dale loved it. It didn't quite get into the marrow of my bones as predicted, but I was moved. On the long drive home I was surprised to hear Dale talk of possible future assisted living arrangements. After all these years I find it unpleasant to imagine living without him, for whatever reasons.

Some of my family are vacationing in Wimberley and return home (South Texas) today, so at some point I will need to drive over and pick up Zachary for his summer stay here. I'm curious as to how long he will want to stay before he gets bored, missing the chaotic and active lifestyle of his life with mother, sisters and little brother. Although time changes many things, our bond will always be tight as I raised him from the age of 2 through 3 while his mother served out her time in state prison. It was a difficult time, it was a blessing and a profound experience for me. I never imagined mysef being a *dad*, or rather a surrogate dad, to a child. But I quickly learned how to change diapers, prepare food, warm bottles, read bedtime stories, and learned first hand what it's like to have a child get really sick and almost die from sickness. Five days in Brackenridge's Children Hospital before they could determine exactly what was wrong with him. The dreaded rotavirus plus a secondary intestinal infection. What a time!

Our newly adopted cat Pepe has totally captured our hearts. It's hard to imagine how people can simply abandon a pet. He's a few months shy of his 4th birthday with an unknown history, but someone treated him very kindly. He was rescued from the animal shelter by the volunteers of R.O.A.R.S., where he awaited certain death, as do so many other dogs and cats. Thank you Francine for the wonderful work you and others do for these wonderful little helpless animals.

Windows into the heart

I like the image of a rich blue sky with billowing white clouds floating by, like
thoughts, they dissipate, and again the sky is rich but empty, until along comes another
cloud, and it catches your attention and off you go. Come back again and again, gently
they say, to the vast expanse of the empty blue sky. I'm not a good meditator. But then
I'm not very good at Ardha Chandrasana or doing anything mechanical...back to the blue sky. I told my yoga teacher how tea tree oil is great at stopping the itch of chigger bites, how my nephew, after mowing the grass had dozens of chigger bites, and the itching was driving him crazy, to the point that he couldn't sleep. Tea tree oil proved to be the solution. This morning, barely past dawn, while washing my car, I kept gazing up at the waning moon, and my mind was flooded with thoughts, and since I wasn't meditating per se, although I like to think I live a contemplative life, I just allowed them to go wherever they wanted. Something like this: ouch, something just stung me on the back, was it that honey bee that keeps buzzing around? ouch again, a fire ant just stung me on the ankle. Tea tree oil. Washing one's mala beads in oil and placing them outside under the rays of a full moon and letting them soak up her gentle beams is suggested and recommended. But then I don't wear my mala beads. Where is my rosary from Jerusalem that SD gave me years ago? I'm so glad I'm finished, more or less, with Catholicism. You must leave your partner, you must become celibate. WE love you Ron, we love you deeply even though you are gay, but to lead this spiritual path you must leave your partner and restrain yourself from making love or having sex with any man. Outrageous! I've been with my partner for over 33 years now. Fuck off. I love him far more than I could possibly embrace your religion. Then I'm back in the present, washing my car, listening to the plethora of sounds--a wide array of birds singing their songs to greet the new day, dogs barking in the far distance, the braying of a donkey, the buzzing of that bee. Then I thought of the day I was at the local grocery store, and standing in the line was a little boy with his father. I don't recall ever having seen such a sad little boy. Big brown downcast eyes, his father had to nudge him to take a step forward as the line moved, and it seemed like a task too difficult for him to do, that he'd just as soon stand there frozen in time, lost in his sad reverie, too frightened to move on his own. He was so little and thin, frail, beautiful dark skin that contrasted with the whiteness of his father's paleness. Was he adopted? Again and again he had to be nudged forward, each little step in his sandaled feet such a difficult task for him. I wondered what ailment he may have, some mysterious disease, was he blind and/or deaf? One eye was definitely off. His sadness just came over me like a wave and sent me crashing into those walls of the unknown, the scary, dark places we all know. I told the cashier that something must be wrong with that little boy that just got escorted out to his car with his dad. "Well, yes, of course there is something wrong with him, you should have seen his father pulling him around the store, nearly yanking his arms out of their sockets, yelling at him, he was really rough with him. Not just rough, cruel." I cringed. Is this a case of child abuse? "If I weren't on duty I'd report him," she said. I walked outside and saw the father driving away in his old white car. I noted the license number and jumped in my car and decided to follow him, even though I had no idea what I would do. I spotted his white car parked at the far corner of the local Sonic, as far away as possible from the eyes of employees and other patrons. This confirmed my suspicions. This little boy was obviously the victim of abuse. What can I do? What if I'm wrong? I needed gasoline so I drove into the nearby gas station and there I saw a deputy sheriff's car. I went inside, found him, and gave him the license number of the vehicle and told him what I knew. No sir, I didn't see anything but others at the grocery did. Please help this little boy. There is nothing I can do he informed me, except notify child services. Please give them the license number I pleaded. He said he'd do what he could. I left feeling empty.

Again, in the present, is that a skunk I smell? Dale saw one the other night sauntering along the sidewalk between the house and the garage. I remember reaching out in the dark one night thinking I was going to be petting my family's collie, and instead reached down and got a powerful spray from a skunk at my feet. It was so strong I couldn't even smell it. But I could feel it, again like a wave, a vibration, sending me reeling, backwards. Now I find myself thinking of S, and how quickly I grew fond of him. What a fun time we had for a week while he was my house guest. How many bottles of wine did we drink? How many times did we stay up until the wee hours just chatting away, sharing our stories, being a bit playful now and again. But before long, red flags went up. Bright red flags, glaring, impossible to ignore. I walked away. I got pulled back in. His horror stories of childhood abuse beyond anything I'd ever heard before, firsthand, made me cry. We wept. He stopped but I continued, the tears flowed for months. How can I walk away from such pain? Let me help you, let me take care of you, let me console you and be very close and loving. NO. NEVER. My heart broke into a thousand pieces. Then he walked away and that was the end of the *friendship.* I did my best. I read, I researched, I learned as much as I could about PTSD, about the exploitation of children, often at the hands of their own parents or older siblings. I read how our society is one that is starving for the loving, caring, human touch and NOT the touch of abuse. We are afraid to touch one another. I am so easily touched. I am so drawn to the deeply wounded. I dig deep into my psyche (soul) to undercover all secrets, all pain, all suffering, and re-live it until I understand it, until all is forgiven and healing has set in.

I finished washing my car this morning, had breakfast, then joined my beautiful gay kula for an intense vinyasa. I love those guys. I also love this poem, because it touches me, it reminds me of the suffering of children, and how those scars can remain unhealed unless they are dealt with spiritually/psychologically:

Seeing the snowman standing all alone

In the dusk and cold is more than he can bear.

The small boy weeps to hear the wind prepare

A night of gnashings and enormous moan.

His tearful sight can hardly reach to where

The pale-faced figure with bitumen eyes

Returns him such a god-forsaken stare

As outcast Adam gave to Paradise.

The man of snow is, nonetheless, content,

Having no wish to go inside and die.

Still, he is moved to see the youngster cry.

Though frozen water is his element,

He melts enough to drop from one soft eye

A trickle of the purest rain, a tear

For the child at the bright pane surrounded by

Such warmth, such light, such love, and so much fear.

richard wilbur, boy at the window

March on ye Warriors and Warriors-to-be (but don't march too hard)

Today I begin to incorporate some Ayurvedic prescribed dietary changes to bring about more balance--less heat, more cool, less fire, more ice, less sun, more moon. I had my first accupuncture session yesterday, pretty amazing. Interesting how some of the needles have an electrical vibration to them as they are adjusted, inserted, or removed, such energy.

The sweet cleaning ladies come this morning which is good, but my routine will be slightly interrupted in that I'll need to stay here and skip morning class. Dale will run errands and I've got to get busy soon. Gary and Fred, I was thinking how much I've enjoyed our weekly Tuesday evening gatherings over the past year plus, and how much I appreciate the friendship, the sharing, the conversation, the support, and definitely the naked dancing that was so liberating and so much fun! But, all things reach an end, and I guess our time had come, what with such busy scheduleds you two have. Love you guys and will miss those special gatherings.

We watched Shelter last night, a really sweet movie set in San Pedro CA, a gay love story, coming out, coming of age, the crazy family and the choices we make and how they have such a profound effect on our lives, and also how the pull of family when dysfunction is going on can also have a profound effect on our lives. The acting was so good, so natural. The protaganist's name was Zach, and he was very much the surrogate father to his nephew, which reminds me of my own nephew, yet another Zach, and how I need to make arrangements to have him stay with us this summer. What will we do in this heat? It can be pretty demanding trying to entertain a kid. Maybe we can take the trapeze course if it's being offered at the Crossing, need to check on some things. I'm sure Roger will have ideas.

Wayo, it was good seeing you the other night and so sweet of you to share a bit of your recent trip to Israel and Jordan. I wonder if I will ever see Petra, it's high on my list. Oh yea, yoga yoga, I took a class recently at Yoga Yoga--hadn't been there in a while--and spent some time chatting afterwards with the teacher, an especially nice guy. I told him of my fears of enrolling in the Teacher Training progam and he seems to have acquired quite a mature understanding of *life* for someone so young....when I got home I had received some books in the mail and the first one I opened, the first passage I read, in the middle of the book was:

"Entering your own fear-based pain allows you to begin to relate to the pain of others. And thus you can experience a sense of kinship with humanity."

and

"As we feel the pain that all people feel in facing an uncontrollable world, compassion naturally arises--even for our 'enemies'".

[excerpt from Saying Yes to Life (Even the Hard Parts) by Ezra Bayda with Josh Bartok]

So true. Serendipitous. Fortuitous. I filled out my application and turned it in along with my deposit. Juan said "awesome, dude, you are in!" And I'm a bit scared and I know that is totally okay, in fact, it's damn good to acknowledge that! Which reminds me, I miss our therapy sessions, Allen. I may call soon. You taught me so much, and reminded me how important it is to acknowledge and embrace our shadows, no matter how dark. While I'm at it, I also miss the beautiful guys at group therapy, hope you are all continuing your excellent work, marching on towards your goals, reaching out, sharing. It was time for me to leave, and it was a good decision.

I'm enjoying blogging in my stream of consciousness sort of way. It's scary thinking that others might read what I write. Journaling for me has always been so personal. It will be hard to censor myself here but in some way I suppose I will need to. Hmm, I'll give that more thought.

Time marches on and I need to get in my lunar breathing and meditation, prepare for the ladies.

Ciao

Eat, Pray, Love and Ramble

I finally started reading Elizabeth Gilbert's Eat, Pray, Love and just as everyone told me, it's a great read. It takes me back to my sweet time in Italy (Tuscany) this past Fall and the fantastic Balinese Sojourn and Yoga Adventure retreat I went on with Spirit Journeys and the incomparable David Moreno (Abhi) earlier this year to Bali (2008). Rathi, I miss you! Abhi, I so want to join you and Kevin in NM this summer but alas I don't think that's going happen. I loved last summer's men's retreat at the Bodhi Zen Center. It was a difficult time for me, falling in love at the wrong time with the wrong person and the healing began there with the creative writing, the sweat lodge, the trance dancing and the rest of that incredible and indescribable experience with such a fantastic group of beautiful men. So healing. Yet another lesson in learning to keep my heart open to all things but listen carefully to my gut. I'm looking out my window as I write and the moon is full, or nearly full and draws me. I saw CW today for accupuncture and need to remember to incorporate Nadi Shodana (lunar breathing) into my daily practice. Cool the heat inside. Practice has been good this week. Murti, you are deep in my thoughts and my heart, my teacher, my friend. May good things to come you. I'm glad you read the Andrew Harvey interview in The Sun, and I'm so glad to have discovered him. Now if only I can convince Dale to either go with me or give me his blessing to get signed up for the pilgrimage to India in early 2009. I'm rambling and it's way past my bedtime. I'll curl up with EPL and Pepe and Ralph and let the moon bath the room in her soft glow.

A Swish of Wind

It seems like only yesterday that mama raccoon carried her 4 kits to the front water fountain, presumably to show them where they might find water in the scorching heat, and now only one seems to have survived. I hope the cat food I've been giving him along with a bowl of water is enough to sustain him. He is so little and frail, and seems so alone in this world. Where are you mama? Has something happened to you? Your kit is having a rough time. But such is Nature. I noticed the cottontail that I threw a carrot to this morning is blind in one eye. The painted buntings are still here although for days I didn't see the male with his brilliantly colorful feathers. Soon the bunting family will be gone, until next year. The hummers are swarming and divebombing and always ready for a sweet refill. I counted six squirrels yesterday, lounging on tree limbs and trunks. A young cardinal crashed into the window right next to where I was sitting, so loud a crash that Pepe jumped from my lap to see what was going on. He was alive, just stunned, on the back porch. As usual when this happens, I grab a clean rag and and put the stunned bird in a box up high, safe from predators and especially fire ants, and watch as they recover their strength and take flight once again. He got into the plumbagos and I couldn't get to him, but I could hear the rustle of his movements as he tried to escape my rescue attempt. Suddenly in an instant I felt a swish of wind against my foot just in time to see him take flight to the nearest oak.